Struggles like addiction can put a parent’s time with their child at risk, but with commitment, perseverance, and a willingness to rebuild trust, co-parenting after recovery is possible. It takes time to prove stability, but for parents who dedicate themselves to positive change, the journey can lead to a renewed relationship with their child and a healthier dynamic with their co-parent.
In this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista interviews Mike, a client and recovering addict whose battle with alcoholism and drug use nearly cost him his relationship with his baby daughter. During his divorce, he turned to Krista for legal guidance while he worked hard to regain stability. After years of recovery and growth, Mike successfully co-parents with his ex-wife, proving that redemption and second chances are possible.
Mike shares more about the following with Krista as they discuss his struggle to get sober:
- Mike’s addiction began in high school and continued into college, where he met his wife. Attending a Christian school didn’t stop his substance use, and he and his wife enabled each other, downplaying the problem. Denial kept him from realizing how much his addiction was affecting his life and relationships.
- Mike vowed to achieve sobriety before his daughter was born, but his addiction worsened. Hitting rock bottom shortly after her birth, he finally admitted he needed help. Opening up to his family and seeking treatment became the first steps in his recovery.
- After rehab, Mike’s marriage ended, and his wife moved to Colorado with their daughter. Determined to stay in her life, he followed and hired Krista, who made it clear that without proof of sustained sobriety, he wouldn’t get parenting time. Her honesty pushed him to stay accountable and follow a strict legal path.
- He started with supervised visits, gradually earning more time as he proved his sobriety. Mike built trust with his ex-wife and the court by consistently passing tests and showing up for his daughter. His dedication paid off, allowing him to share parenting time and maintain his recovery.
Achieving sobriety is a huge feat, but Mike had the right motivation. He wanted to be a good dad, and with that in mind, he was willing to do whatever it took to spend more time with his daughter. With strong support around him, Mike now has 50/50 custody of his child.
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