When parents face divorce, most assume their options are limited to hiring a lawyer, finding a therapist, or doing both at once. What many don’t realize is that there is another form of support explicitly designed to reduce conflict, improve decision-making, and protect children from the emotional fallout of separation: divorce coaching.
In this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast, Krista welcomes Tracy Callahan, co-founder of the Divorce Coaches Academy, to explain what divorce coaching really is and why it plays such an important role in child-centered family law outcomes.
Divorce coaching is often misunderstood. It is not therapy, and it is not about preparing parents for court battles. Instead, divorce coaching is a future-focused, action-oriented form of dispute resolution. Its purpose is to help parents manage emotions, understand conflict patterns, and develop communication skills that allow them to move through divorce with greater clarity and less damage to their children.
As Tracy explains, children experience divorce through the behavior of their parents. Divorce itself is not inherently harmful, but ongoing conflict, poor communication, and emotional dysregulation can create lasting consequences for kids. Divorce coaching addresses these issues directly by helping parents recognize what they can control — their own responses, choices, and behaviors — rather than remaining stuck in blame or fear.
One of the most important distinctions discussed in the episode is the difference between divorce coaching and therapy. Therapy often focuses on understanding the past and processing emotional experiences. Divorce coaching, by contrast, acknowledges the past without allowing it to dominate future decisions. The work centers on where parents are going, how they want their family to function moving forward, and what changes they are willing to make to get there.
The episode also highlights how divorce coaching complements legal representation rather than replacing it. Many parents unknowingly use attorneys as emotional sounding boards, which increases legal costs without resolving the underlying conflict. Divorce coaching helps parents enter legal discussions better prepared, emotionally regulated, and focused on practical solutions, saving time, money, and stress while improving outcomes for children.
Throughout the conversation, Krista and Tracy return to a central theme: children thrive when parents reduce conflict and keep adult issues out of their emotional world. Divorce coaching provides parents with a structured way to do so, even in high-stress situations.
For parents navigating separation, and for professionals working with families, divorce coaching represents a critical but often overlooked tool. When used effectively, it helps families transition into two homes with less damage, more stability, and a stronger foundation for healthy co-parenting.
To hear the full conversation with Tracy Callahan, listen to this episode of the Children First Family Law®️ podcast.
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