Divorce is never easy, and children often bear the brunt of the emotional turmoil. Unfortunately, kids can become entangled in legal battles, adding to their stress. Understanding how family court proceedings work can help parents navigate the process with less anxiety and more focus on their children’s well-being. Dr. Ben Garber, a licensed psychologist and leading child and family development expert, has spent decades advocating for children in high-conflict family law cases. Through his work as a clinician, author, and forensic evaluator, he provides parents and professionals with tools to minimize harm and support children through divorce.
In this episode of Children First Family Law, Krista and Dr. Garber explore his extensive research and practical strategies for keeping kids out of the crossfire. He stresses the importance of “advance orientation”—helping families understand what to expect in a divorce to ease uncertainty. They discuss how parental anxiety can negatively impact children and why clear, consistent information is crucial to reducing fear. Dr. Garber also shares samples from his site, DefuseDivorce.com, which offers parents and professionals guidance on managing conflict in a way that protects children. Parents can help their children navigate divorce with resilience and security by creating stability and maintaining open communication.
During his conversation with Krista, Dr. Garber expounds further upon:
- Dr. Garber has authored ten books on child development, divorce, and family law, providing research-backed guidance for parents and professionals navigating complex family transitions.
- High-conflict families create instability and stress, often leaving children feeling caught in the middle. Dr. Garber explains how reducing parental conflict is critical for protecting children’s emotional well-being.
- While divorce is difficult, parents can minimize its impact by focusing on cooperation, clear communication, and shielding children from conflict. Dr. Garber stresses that how parents handle the transition makes all the difference.
- Preparing children for changes in advance helps reduce anxiety and fosters a sense of security. Dr. Garber advocates for clear, age-appropriate communication to help kids adjust more smoothly.
- When parents are overwhelmed with uncertainty, children pick up on that stress. Dr. Garber explains that having the right information and a structured plan helps parents stay calm, which in turn reassures their children.
- Stability in routines, relationships, and expectations helps children feel secure. Dr. Garber says that parents who provide consistency become a reliable source of comfort during difficult transitions.
Divorce proceedings can be anxiety-inducing, but using information as an antidote, you and your children can enter this process well prepared and less fearful.
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