When parents separate, one of the most important steps toward stability is creating a parenting plan that centers on the child’s needs, not parental preferences. In this episode of the Children First Family Law® podcast, Krista explores how predictability, clarity, and flexibility can transform family transitions into opportunities for growth and peace.
A strong parenting plan gives children a sense of safety. Krista explains that “clarity is kind” and “predictability is safety,” meaning that when children know what to expect—where they’ll be sleeping, who’s picking them up, and when they’ll see each parent—they’re better able to relax and thrive.
Parenting plans should also evolve as children develop. Infants and toddlers need frequent, shorter visits. School-aged children benefit from structured yet consistent schedules, and teenagers need autonomy and a say in their routines. Krista cautions parents not to focus on perfect equality but on meaningful relationships and emotional stability.
Beyond schedules, parenting plans should include clear decision-making responsibilities, communication expectations, and thoughtful approaches to holidays, vacations, and new relationships. Technology access, travel notifications, and dispute resolution clauses are small details that make a big difference in reducing future conflict.
When cooperation feels impossible, Krista recommends structured communication tools and, in some cases, temporary parallel parenting. Still, her message is consistent. Children benefit most when parents strive for teamwork, even if imperfectly.
“Structure,” she reminds listeners, “is one of the greatest kindnesses you can offer your children.” This October, Krista encourages parents to revisit their parenting plans, making sure they reflect not just logistics but also love, stability, and a commitment to helping kids flourish, no matter what changes life brings.
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