The new year often brings resolutions, but for divorced and separated parents, the stakes are higher. Children notice the tension, the unspoken rules, and the emotional ups and downs between parents. Krista Nash, attorney, mediator, parenting coordinator, and child advocate, shares 10 resolutions designed to make a meaningful difference in children’s lives.
- Stop speaking negatively about your co-parent
Children pick up on tone, gestures, and facial expressions—even when words are controlled. Protect their emotional safety by keeping criticisms to yourself.
- Avoid using your child as a messenger
Children should not carry adult messages, financial disputes, or emotional communications between parents. Handle it directly.
- Pause before responding
Quick, reactive messages often escalate conflict. Slow down, reflect, and ask: Does this serve my child?
- Support your child’s relationship with the other parent
Unless there are safety concerns, encourage love and connection. Avoid guilt-tripping or making children choose.
- Stop keeping score
Children resent comparisons and competition between parents. Let go of the invisible scoreboard.
- Make transitions calmer
Exchanges between homes can be stressful. Be on time, avoid conflict, and offer simple, cordial greetings.
- Take care of your emotional health
Unprocessed pain shows up in parenting. Therapy, coaching, or co-parenting classes are investments in your child’s well-being.
- Aim for consistency, not identical households
Agree on routines, expectations, and essential care to provide stability, while respecting differences.
- Apologize and repair when you mess up
Model accountability and emotional safety. Show that mistakes are human and relationships can recover.
- Be flexible
Flexibility communicates that your child’s needs matter more than rigid schedules or control. Intentional flexibility reduces conflict and fosters connection.
Krista emphasizes that parents don’t need to implement all 10 at once. Even choosing one resolution and committing to it can create ripple effects that positively shape a child’s emotional world. In 2026, consider prioritizing your child’s needs through intentional, thoughtful co-parenting.
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